Saving The Marriage – How To Say I’m Sorry
For some, saying sorry is the hardest word to say. It is like pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanokoniosis – which is lung disease and the longest word in the dictionary. An apology is not considered sincere if it’s not joined by the words “I’m sorry”. It’s should be straight from the heart.
Saying sorry can reverse everything. It can change from negative to positive. A proper apology should always have the following.
Believe it or not, for many men it comes down to the fact that your center of the universe has shifted. The moment you found out about your baby your life became focused on one thing: the child you’re carrying. You begin making plans, picking out nursery furniture, and knitting baby booties. Suddenly he’s no longer the center of your universe and he isn’t quite ready to deal with that.
Although it’s unethical to others, you need to understand them. They have earthly needs that only another woman can give because of your situation. Instead of grieving, just look at the brighter side. In the end, you are still the winner.
Give everything that you can to be a good wife and a mother. Prepare a dinner or keep the house organize. He’ll then appreciate what you did and you will catch his attention easily. You don’t need to worry because everything will be back to normal after you gave birth.
Body Changes and a New Perspective
Don’t try to defend yourself or justify the situation. Apology is all about them and how they feel. It doesn’t matter if the actions were intentional or not, the end result is the same.
The problem is that once you’ve had a baby you’ve become someone’s mother. For some men that resemblance between you and his own mother are just too much for him to even consider touching you now that you’ve had his baby.
Unfortunately that doesn’t change the way either of your feel about the other. He can love you very much and still cheat on you. Most men who cheat for this reason do not cheat due to lack of love. They cheat because they still have needs but are now unable to turn to you to meet those needs.
Waiting for You to Heal
No matter what the doctor says there are some times when husbands believe you just shouldn’t yet be healed. Some men rush home the first opportunity while others delay and delay. He still has needs and another woman is probably ready to swoop in and offer to meet those needs for him but the bottom line is that you have his bright and sunny brand new baby so he will be coming back to you.
The fact that he doesn’t want to hurt you can be endearing but it won’t make the fact that he did cheat any less painful to confront. Before you make a move to try to get your ex back or save your marriage in this situation please try to see things from his point of view too. This article, Saving The Marriage – How To Say I’m Sorry is available for free reprint.
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